Living Out Loud

Straight Old White Guy's Guide to Talking About Race, Abortion, Feminism and LGBT issues

IMG_1496 Yes, I'm qualified to speak for the straight old white guys of the world

Are you effin crazy? Nobody wants to hear us pontificate on the most complex and personal issues of modern times. Our job is to listen. If someone in one of those intersectional groups asks you questions about how you feel, then answer them honestly and carefully. Do not be afraid to say you don't know or don't understand the totality of the thing.

I understand you have opinions. I understand you believe in equality, a woman's right to choose, equal rights and same sex marriage. Good for you. You qualify as a non-terrible human being, not sainthood. Do not pat yourself on the back just for not being an evil right-wing troll. It's OK for you to feel good about how much you have learned and how much you have grown but there is no need for you to tell everyone about your journey.

There is one group you can talk to, if you really need to get stuff off your chest. That group is other straight, old white guys, particularly if they are still on the fence about any of this stuff they should have gotten onboard with a long time ago. If you hear someone spouting some backwards shit, do the right thing and call them out. We are way, way past the point where anyone gets a pass for listening to someone tell racist, homophobic, misogynistic jokes or stories. Nip that crap right in the bud.

You are allowed to put a pride flag on your profile or on your front porch for that matter. Some assholes might accuse you of virtue signaling but it's a recognized sign of being on ally. You can wear a BLM t-shirt too for the same reason. If you really want to do the right thing, maybe give some dough anonymously to a clinic or a shelter, to the Matthew Shephard Foundation.

Do your imperfect best every day to learn about other people's struggles. Listen to your friends who are POC or LGBT. Listen to your mom, wife, daughter and female co-workers. Try to put yourself in spaces where you can grow your understanding. Making a better world starts with you because it is an inside job.

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